A slice of our wedding cake

Hólavallagata

Good friends are hard to come by, but for Jamie and me, we know they live an eighth of the world away—well, a sixth of the world away from Jamie and a twelfth of the world away from me. They are Daði, Sessa, Gunnhildur, Björn Þór and family. If not for them, we would never be.

It all started before Jamie & I began dating. Gunna & Jamie, having both come to Ann Arbor by themselves, found a common bond in their fondness for strong drinks and distaste towards the life of a music student. They frequented many of the lovely establishments around Ann Arbor for post-concert gatherings, sharing thoughts on classes, rehearsals, gossip and more.
During one such outing, Gunna extended an invitation to Jamie to come to Iceland to be a part of the Icelandic Chamber Music Festival’s string quartet seminar: a one-week intensive string quartet seminar led by a member of the Pacifica Quartet with the option to stay a couple of extra days on vacation. Seeking a change of scenery, Jamie happily agreed to play. Around the same time, Gunna floated the same invitation to me. Knowing that I might be flying to the Netherlands just as the festival would take place, I happily considered the option to make music and hike in a country where I had never visited. Without any of us knowing, Gunna set the stage for Jamie and me to come together in Iceland.

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Jakob taking a shot of Pia

Jakob

We first met Jakob at 8:00 AM on the morning of our wedding. It might seem odd that the only guest at our wedding was a complete stranger, but in many ways it makes sense. Jakob was our photographer. He is the co-founder of Nordica Photography, a Stockholm based partnership which specializes not in wedding photography but in capturing the stories of couples getting married. We had no clue about Jakob’s personality or appearance, but when he walked in to first meet us at Hotel Búðir, we recognized him instantly and felt comfortable in his presence.

Two hours later I was putting on my wedding dress and putting on my hair and make up while he clicked away on his cameras. Jamie was dressing in a separate room across the hotel, meaning that Jakob was running to and fro trying to capture both scenes as they unfolded. Our ceremony was at noon, giving us little time to prepare. Jamie of course put on his suit quickly and went downstairs to handle things with Páll Ágúst. I on the other hand struggled to do my own hair and make up in front of a tiny mirror without proper lighting. I was so focused on my task that I barely noticed Jakob hovering about, sometimes standing in the shower poking his lens out and who knows where else. On top of his constant shooting Jakob also played the role of sentry as Jamie needed to go in and out multiple times and various staff came to help. The entire morning I could catch the smiles coming off Jakob’s face as he snapped a particularly good shot or as he noticed a humorous quirk that had just taken place. At one point I had asked Jakob the time to which he responded that it was thirteen minutes to noon. He then laughed as I took my needle and thread and started sewing on two buttons not yet on my shrug. By the time I was ready for the ceremony I felt calm and relaxed around him though I can be camera shy sometimes.

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The drive up to Hotel Budir

Arriving at Búðir

After our adventure in the mountains and Stykkishólmur it was finally time to go to Búðir. For four months, this place with the tiny little black church was on our minds daily. Knowing that not only we would get married there, we would finally get to see each other, hold each other, fall asleep and wake up in each other’s arms. While our days in Reykjavik were wonderful, we finally settled into being ‘us’ on the road to Búðir. We listened to Bach, Beethoven, and finally Sigur Rós. We drove through mountains, clouds, rain storms, and coastlines. Though we had decided to use a map from now on, we didn’t look once. We knew it would come up and the suspense of every turn was filled with more and more love. More and more connectedness, until finally, while listening to Sigur Rós’s ‘Góðan daginn’ (an absolute favorite for the past couple months), the black church appeared. With teary eyes and held breath we quietly drove up. We came ‘home’ at last.

We walked into the hotel and were greeted the with friendliest smiles, amazing smells from dinner and the cutest dog named Nagli (nails). We walked up to room no. 23 and just fell in love. The views from our room: ‘moonland’, seaside, and the church. We hugged for a long time in the open window overlooking the church. When we finally were cold and damp from the wind and rain, we headed downstairs for dinner.

The whole hotel had turned into a sea of candles! Just when we thought it couldn’t get any better we ate freshly caught salmon and drank delicious wine. From the moment we drove up the road to Búðir, it finally started to all fall in place for me. After a hot bath in the middle of our room, we went our separate ways for a little while. Jamie rewrote his vows in a postcard moleskine. I went downstairs and sat on a couch by a window overlooking the sea. After chatting with the quiet hotel manager, I ended up just copying the vows I had already written a few days before, it felt right.

Not much sleep happened that night, the rain came down hard, adjusting to the midnight sun and the excitement for the next day were reasons to not close my eyes. I was so comfortable though, next to my love and in a huge, warm, and soft bed.

One of the friendly ‘detour’ horses

Our ‘Detour’ on the Way to Stykkishólmur…

Our way to Stykkishólmur to meet with the county official for our final paperwork became a bit of an adventure. Thanks to ‘Garmina’, our Brittish GPS tour-guide we ended up in the mountains, on a road where we could hardly turn back until we had to drive through a river and our earlier suspicions of being on the wrong path were confirmed. We should have listened to our hearts but we were so preoccupied with excitement and nerves that we let Garmina guide us.

Up until Borganes everything was fine but about 10 minutes out of the last ‘big’ town before one hits the middle of nowhere we ended up on a mountain road toward… who knows. On our way we were first greeted by handfuls of the cutest little lamb and their protective mothers. They are so curious and yet so shy. They make the sweetest noises and above all, they wag their teeny tiny tails when they drink.

A lot of potholes later we were stopped by a group of horses that were grazing off the side of the road and drinking from the water that filled the potholes. We stopped, rolled down our windows, and were stared straight into the soul by these friendly beauties.

Not long after our meeting with the Icelandic horses we literally couldn’t drive any further. We checked Garmina and, oh yes, we were on our way to the complete wrong place! As a last sign, we came upon a totem marking the road as it forked—in one direction through a rushing river, the other up the mountain over a potted road. A slight panic set in as we were actually on a deadline. It is hard to imagine that one can be on a deadline in the countryside where time seems to stand still and the light is just as bright during midnight as noon. I jumped out of the car. Twenty turns later, we were finally turned around (the road was tiny) and on our way back to the main road. We were quiet, focused and even the horses sensed that we were in a rush this time.

The county official, Dadi, would be present at his office until 4pm. We arrived at 3:36 PM and rushed inside. With a serious look he asked us to sit down and hand him our paperwork. Without a word he left the room and came back with a very serious look, sat down, told us that everything was perfect and then—only then—he smiled. We looked at each other and sighed with relief. We were going to get married tomorrow!

We drove around Stykkishólmur for 10 minutes, stopped into a little store where I bought some lace to pretty up my shoes (which was eventually done with a hairpiece…) but then headed to the car, we were ready to go to Budir.

After we ate a real Icelandic Hotdog, with questionable crunchy bits in it, on our way to Budir, we laughed about it all. We also decided that from now on we will listen with our eyes while on the road and using a good old road map.

Right choice

Recently we have been asked many times if we feel like we made the right choice to elope. Every time our heart breaks a little. When do you ever feel like you made the right choice when there are so many choices that are wonderful. Well, the one thing I am 100% sure of is that we made the right choice to get married! Yes we would have loved to have everyone there, and, yes we love that it will be just us. We haven’t seen each other much this past year and we will be able to fully enjoy each other and focus on our love this way. One makes choices based on so many things and we were bound by timing and distance.

So, I believe that the most important thing is that you are happy with your choices and we are!