Pia & Jamie's Wedding

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Though we decided to keep our wedding ceremony just between the two of us, we also wanted to share our experience with everyone around us. As a part of that we made this blog. We also invited those close to us to write letters and send cards which would be opened on our wedding day. But most importantly, we decided to invest in hiring one of the best photographers in the world. That meant one thing: Nordica Photography.

Jakob handled our wedding perfectly, and now we are excited to share some of our favorite shots from the day.

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A slice of our wedding cake

Hólavallagata

Good friends are hard to come by, but for Jamie and me, we know they live an eighth of the world away—well, a sixth of the world away from Jamie and a twelfth of the world away from me. They are Daði, Sessa, Gunnhildur, Björn Þór and family. If not for them, we would never be.

It all started before Jamie & I began dating. Gunna & Jamie, having both come to Ann Arbor by themselves, found a common bond in their fondness for strong drinks and distaste towards the life of a music student. They frequented many of the lovely establishments around Ann Arbor for post-concert gatherings, sharing thoughts on classes, rehearsals, gossip and more.
During one such outing, Gunna extended an invitation to Jamie to come to Iceland to be a part of the Icelandic Chamber Music Festival’s string quartet seminar: a one-week intensive string quartet seminar led by a member of the Pacifica Quartet with the option to stay a couple of extra days on vacation. Seeking a change of scenery, Jamie happily agreed to play. Around the same time, Gunna floated the same invitation to me. Knowing that I might be flying to the Netherlands just as the festival would take place, I happily considered the option to make music and hike in a country where I had never visited. Without any of us knowing, Gunna set the stage for Jamie and me to come together in Iceland.

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A bird taking flight as we departed Búðir

Après un Rêve

It has almost been two weeks since the wedding. Pia and I have been together in Groningen half settling into married life, half trying to avoid the looming date of my departure.

Already as we were making our way back to Reykjavik we could feel the magic of Búðir begin to fade. As we wound our way along the coast and emerged from the tunnel, our wedding began to feel like a dream.

Awaiting us in Reykjavik were Daði, Sessa, Gunnhildur, Björn Þor, and Mary Frances who were among the first to welcome us as newlyweds. It was quite fitting to celebrate our marriage under the roof where we first came together and with the friends who brought us there. After wonderful food, many drinks, and very little sleep, our stop in Reykjavik ended as we carried on to catch our flight out of Keflavik. Again we were moving away from Búðir.

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Jakob taking a shot of Pia

Jakob

We first met Jakob at 8:00 AM on the morning of our wedding. It might seem odd that the only guest at our wedding was a complete stranger, but in many ways it makes sense. Jakob was our photographer. He is the co-founder of Nordica Photography, a Stockholm based partnership which specializes not in wedding photography but in capturing the stories of couples getting married. We had no clue about Jakob’s personality or appearance, but when he walked in to first meet us at Hotel Búðir, we recognized him instantly and felt comfortable in his presence.

Two hours later I was putting on my wedding dress and putting on my hair and make up while he clicked away on his cameras. Jamie was dressing in a separate room across the hotel, meaning that Jakob was running to and fro trying to capture both scenes as they unfolded. Our ceremony was at noon, giving us little time to prepare. Jamie of course put on his suit quickly and went downstairs to handle things with Páll Ágúst. I on the other hand struggled to do my own hair and make up in front of a tiny mirror without proper lighting. I was so focused on my task that I barely noticed Jakob hovering about, sometimes standing in the shower poking his lens out and who knows where else. On top of his constant shooting Jakob also played the role of sentry as Jamie needed to go in and out multiple times and various staff came to help. The entire morning I could catch the smiles coming off Jakob’s face as he snapped a particularly good shot or as he noticed a humorous quirk that had just taken place. At one point I had asked Jakob the time to which he responded that it was thirteen minutes to noon. He then laughed as I took my needle and thread and started sewing on two buttons not yet on my shrug. By the time I was ready for the ceremony I felt calm and relaxed around him though I can be camera shy sometimes.

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Spyglass overlooking the bay at Búðir

Stillness After the Storm

As we slowly woke the morning after the wedding, all was still. The rain had stopped and the clouds began to disappear, revealing the snow-topped mountains in the distance. Through the windows, fields of blue had begun to show in the skies over the bay.

This was the first day after our day. The party was over, the toasting all done. We were now a married couple. Still reveling in the afterglow of the wedding, we lingered in bed a little longer before starting the day.

By ten in the morning, we made our way downstairs for breakfast and to see Jakob off. The hotel was quiet as guests came and went. Birds flew against the wind outside the window, floating against the sea air with wings outstretched. This was peace. This was home.

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Budir Kirkja Door Handle

The Way

Arriving to the hotel, Pia was already waiting for me in the lobby. My eyes took a moment to adjust to the figure draped in white as I walked in, as it dawned upon me that I was looking at Pia—that I was looking at my bride. The lobby of the hotel was filled with guests and staff, all smiling and watching as I took my bride, sharing with her a kiss and a firm hug. Pia was absolutely beautiful wearing the little chevron dress we had bought together a year earlier along with a white jacket and delicate Icelandic wool scarf. Pia seemed equally taken by me in my suit as she held me and looked at her groom.

Leaving the hotel, umbrella in hand, Pia and I proceeded arm-in-arm as we walked up the road from Hotel Búðir to Búðir Kirka. Arriving at the church, we opened its white wooden gate and crossed the grounds. Then we opened the church doors and peered into the little wooden church. Awaiting us in a white robe was Páll Ágúst, smiling as we proceeded down the aisle together. Though the church was empty and cold minutes before, we all could feel the warmth brought by our love and the love of all those who have been with us. And then, out of the silence and stillness of that little wooden church, our wedding began.

For the next forty minutes, the world was still. Inside that tiny church, the rain, which had been pouring down on the entire peninsula and all of Búðir, ceased its roar; the gray skies, which reached all the way down to the sea with lingering clouds, grew brighter. There were just four souls in the entire world for those forty minutes: Jamie, Pia, Páll, & Jakob.

We laughed and cried our way through the ceremony. Pia stared into my eyes as I gazed into hers. Páll read his blessings and shared with us his wisdom. Then a letter from Pia’s father, Marius, filled with sage advice, poetry, and colors as robust as any drawings he has made. Next came the vows written for each other. Pia and I had each filled a Moleskine postcard to read to each other. During those vows, everybody in the church just about lost it as the tears fell over our love for one another. A couple of ‘I do’s, two rings, and a tri-lingual ‘Our Father’ later the ceremony was complete. We kissed, turned, and walked out of the church exactly as we had entered: two souls bound together as one.

Pia & Jamie's Wedding

Páll Ágúst

We were married by Reverend Páll Ágúst Olaffson at Búðir Kirka on 27 May 2014. Páll is a jolly man with a generous smile and a firm handshake. Our paths crossed about three months ago after we had settled upon having the ceremony at the Búðir Kirka. In our first email exchange, I had written that though neither of us are religious, we are both spiritual people; though we had not desired or planned on a religious ceremony, we were both open to the idea of making our wedding sacred in some way. Páll’s response: “The only thing that matters is that you love each other and that you are excited to get married!” Instantly we knew that we had the right person.

As we began organizing the ceremony, Páll forwarded us his typical ceremony format and asked if we would like anything special. We had two requests: that he leave room to read a letter written from Pia’s father, Marius; and that we have a chance to read our own vows to each other. Páll was happy to oblige.

Once all the arrangements were made and we had both travelled to Reykjavik, I got an email from Páll on Sunday night, wondering if we might be able to meet briefly the next morning. As it would turn out, Páll was living in Reykjavik, traveling the two hours’ distance out to Búðir and his other parishes. We arranged to meet him in the lobby of our hotel at 9:30 AM the next morning.

At 9:15 AM, our phone rang—so much for Michigan Time™. Páll was waiting. Jamie & I hurried to finish getting ready and jumped on the elevator. When the doors opened, there stood a man with a quiet, friendly face. We introduced ourselves, and Páll asked us a few questions about our travel and our plans for the next day. He gave us instructions about the paperwork due that afternoon in Stykkishólmur, wished us a safe trip to Snæfellsnes, and was soon on his way to a ‘9:30 emergency.’

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The drive up to Hotel Budir

Arriving at Búðir

After our adventure in the mountains and Stykkishólmur it was finally time to go to Búðir. For four months, this place with the tiny little black church was on our minds daily. Knowing that not only we would get married there, we would finally get to see each other, hold each other, fall asleep and wake up in each other’s arms. While our days in Reykjavik were wonderful, we finally settled into being ‘us’ on the road to Búðir. We listened to Bach, Beethoven, and finally Sigur Rós. We drove through mountains, clouds, rain storms, and coastlines. Though we had decided to use a map from now on, we didn’t look once. We knew it would come up and the suspense of every turn was filled with more and more love. More and more connectedness, until finally, while listening to Sigur Rós’s ‘Góðan daginn’ (an absolute favorite for the past couple months), the black church appeared. With teary eyes and held breath we quietly drove up. We came ‘home’ at last.

We walked into the hotel and were greeted the with friendliest smiles, amazing smells from dinner and the cutest dog named Nagli (nails). We walked up to room no. 23 and just fell in love. The views from our room: ‘moonland’, seaside, and the church. We hugged for a long time in the open window overlooking the church. When we finally were cold and damp from the wind and rain, we headed downstairs for dinner.

The whole hotel had turned into a sea of candles! Just when we thought it couldn’t get any better we ate freshly caught salmon and drank delicious wine. From the moment we drove up the road to Búðir, it finally started to all fall in place for me. After a hot bath in the middle of our room, we went our separate ways for a little while. Jamie rewrote his vows in a postcard moleskine. I went downstairs and sat on a couch by a window overlooking the sea. After chatting with the quiet hotel manager, I ended up just copying the vows I had already written a few days before, it felt right.

Not much sleep happened that night, the rain came down hard, adjusting to the midnight sun and the excitement for the next day were reasons to not close my eyes. I was so comfortable though, next to my love and in a huge, warm, and soft bed.

One of the friendly ‘detour’ horses

Our ‘Detour’ on the Way to Stykkishólmur…

Our way to Stykkishólmur to meet with the county official for our final paperwork became a bit of an adventure. Thanks to ‘Garmina’, our Brittish GPS tour-guide we ended up in the mountains, on a road where we could hardly turn back until we had to drive through a river and our earlier suspicions of being on the wrong path were confirmed. We should have listened to our hearts but we were so preoccupied with excitement and nerves that we let Garmina guide us.

Up until Borganes everything was fine but about 10 minutes out of the last ‘big’ town before one hits the middle of nowhere we ended up on a mountain road toward… who knows. On our way we were first greeted by handfuls of the cutest little lamb and their protective mothers. They are so curious and yet so shy. They make the sweetest noises and above all, they wag their teeny tiny tails when they drink.

A lot of potholes later we were stopped by a group of horses that were grazing off the side of the road and drinking from the water that filled the potholes. We stopped, rolled down our windows, and were stared straight into the soul by these friendly beauties.

Not long after our meeting with the Icelandic horses we literally couldn’t drive any further. We checked Garmina and, oh yes, we were on our way to the complete wrong place! As a last sign, we came upon a totem marking the road as it forked—in one direction through a rushing river, the other up the mountain over a potted road. A slight panic set in as we were actually on a deadline. It is hard to imagine that one can be on a deadline in the countryside where time seems to stand still and the light is just as bright during midnight as noon. I jumped out of the car. Twenty turns later, we were finally turned around (the road was tiny) and on our way back to the main road. We were quiet, focused and even the horses sensed that we were in a rush this time.

The county official, Dadi, would be present at his office until 4pm. We arrived at 3:36 PM and rushed inside. With a serious look he asked us to sit down and hand him our paperwork. Without a word he left the room and came back with a very serious look, sat down, told us that everything was perfect and then—only then—he smiled. We looked at each other and sighed with relief. We were going to get married tomorrow!

We drove around Stykkishólmur for 10 minutes, stopped into a little store where I bought some lace to pretty up my shoes (which was eventually done with a hairpiece…) but then headed to the car, we were ready to go to Budir.

After we ate a real Icelandic Hotdog, with questionable crunchy bits in it, on our way to Budir, we laughed about it all. We also decided that from now on we will listen with our eyes while on the road and using a good old road map.

The Best Kind of Industrial Accident

Trying to avoid some of the cold and the rain, we traveled south yesterday to Keflavik, spending the afternoon at the Blue Lagoon. While relaxing in the glowing blue thermal pools, we both realized how exhausted we have become over the previous months. We slathered white silica mud across our faces, sipped Skyr smoothies, steamed in the bath house, and drifted across the pools in search of the hot spots which would soothe our souls.

The funny thing about the Blue Lagoon is that it is actually the result of an industrial accident. Next door to the resort is a geothermal plant which pumps hot water from deep underground, extracts its energy, and injects the used water back into the crust. The only problem is that the water doesn’t want to go back down. The same silica mud that we make our ridiculous masks out of stops the water near the surface, causing it to flood and spill out into the crater-like landscape. Looking at the lagoon on Google Earth you can see how this industrial accident played out.

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